Writer's Block: Checking it twice

[matt1993]

Checking it twice
Are you on Santa’s nice or naughty list?

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Naughty, if my stupid comments this year are part of his criteria :(

Leave a lump of repost in your journal

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[matt1993]

If you want to know where I stand, however, I think that James just really needs to stop obsessing about finding a girlfriend and do some "healthy growing up" on his own, and he'll probably be okay. Right now, he's cutting off his nose to spite his face, insisting that he can't grow up without this extremely specific and nearly impossible experience. If he continues down this path, his attitudes are going to become so distasteful that he will never be able to find a healthy relationship, thus dooming himself (in his own mind) to being stunted forever.

Ohhh! In that case, we are pretty much on the same side. As I said, I did hear from James that he is actually more open-minded than people thought and he only posted a narrow set of standards because he thought that'd be the only kind of girl who could like him, but my opinion before that was pretty much the same as yours. (And, for the record, I have told him that he shouldn't worry about still being single since he's only 20. I haven't heard back from him yet, but then again, it was a while before he replied to my first message.)

The split with John had nothing to do with any conflict over that, however, but over his appalling treatment of me on my own journal as well as in real life, and the fact that whatever his problem was with me was spilling over into the asperger community. If you wish, you can read my post about it. There will be no making up, his behavior was totally unacceptable and I will never acknowledge his existence again.

Ohhh, I see. I didn't know this split had happened before the Forbidden Comment Threads.

I hope that doesn't make you uncomfortable or upset, because whether we agree on these matters or not, it doesn't impact how I perceive you. Our interactions have ever been pleasant and thoughtful... though I still think you are way too hard on yourself. :P

Thanks so much! I think a big part of it was the fact that sometimes it didn't feel like we were getting along well, so now that I know we are, I think it's safe to assume my depression just might finally be over!*

And just in time for Christmas, too... it's a Christmas miracle! :D

*Unless I read some comments in lj_support or news today :P